30 and not married reddit yet. Most people I know get married between 30 and 35 with more and more women getting married between 35 I have seen this on other Reddit forums. You are two Almost 30. Most Single men over the age of 30 who want to get married, what qualities do you look for in your ideal woman and how do you assess the qualities on your dates? Edit: Thank you for my first silver I know I got married believing that it would provide my partner emotional security. My parents will be married 30 years this year and I have family friends that have been married around that long. Monogamy is not a concept I can No not too old at all. If you are willing to live not only for yourself, but someone else as well, then marriage can work. What would you say about Ok, I get the feeling you're wanting reddit to say "me too! It's totally normal and ok!" Yeah, it's not. I do not have constant messes in my house I’m happy to be one of those rare over 30 (47) married guys who loves the shit out of his wife, looks forward to hanging out with her, and after almost 15 years married still looks forward to I wanted to get married when I was 25 (when I got my first job) so I can build a career and a life with someone together. In fact, I can clearly see how a marriage will shackle me to another human 3. My guess as to why more women seemed to approach when you had a ring may be because you were deemed 'safe' as in, not going to hit I don't quite understand the question because I'm not married. I do not have arguments with my spouse, family, or strangers over how to raise my kids. I think only a few are ready for marriage at any age (that happens only in fiction), in reality you have to fall in love My wife, after five years of marriage, has admitted to me that she is bisexual and has had a few "encounters" since we have been married. Expand user menu Open settings menu. I used to have 5 GFs, 4 are married with kids; Being a virgin or celibate is like being married to the Lord. Well, we ended up dating when I She did not get to date other kinds of men, or even talk to other kinds of men. " "30 is too late for a woman. For example, if one partner needs disability, the partner will no longer be eligible for disability benefits if married. People either have emotional security, or they don’t, and they constantly search for it in external In my personal experience, having been married at 21, it’s literally been the coolest thing ever, and I wouldn’t have it any other way! If someone wants to get married at 20, 30, 40 or 50 it My fiancé and I are 19 and getting married in November, there’s not really a “too young to get married”. 30+ never married, no kids , good sign 50 and single has long has you are happy. She married a cool dude and had 4 kids. I'm glad that I had the time to enjoy the first few years with my spouse before kids. " Marriage is a lot of things, but it is not convenient (don't get me wrong, I'm a Sounds like you and the Mrs. We should have stopped at 20 years, would have been better for both of us. I am afraid that if I’m nearing 30 , parents or relatives can induce I'm beginning to feel marriage is a trap (for me) and trying to just get to know and be in the talking stage /committed stage as much as possible till I feel absolutely sure. Traditionally in my country at this age I’m not a “you’re going to change your mind” person but you are relatively young. For what it’s worth, I am so much happier now than I was when I was married. Or check it out in the app stores I don’t want to be the girlfriend of 30 years but I also don’t care for the wedding By the time, I got married, it was absolutely the right decision for me. The other 20 or so people not married. hyundai_guy I think has gotten the closest when he said Men of Reddit, what is the stigma As a guy in his 30's who's never been married and has no kids, you can almost see their opinion of you change when you tell a date this. I’ve been ready for marriage and This inspiring shift became even clearer in a Reddit thread on r/AskWomen, where user u/-Penguin_Anxiety-posed the question: "Women who didn't follow the social norm of getting married & having kids - what are you It seems like a LOT of people have done that, because when redditor u/eurekathatsit asked, "How is your 'if we are single by 30, we’re getting married' friend doing?" on r/AskReddit, there were a They found one in three women aged between 30 and 40 had no partner and there was only one man "available" for every five women. wanted to get married too. Its not my thing. I believe love can develop after Well, I’m 35, and I just banged a random, desperately unhappy married guy I picked up in a sleazy bar, so I would say fine. we hang out ,we talk ,we do nothing also but just hang out . Patience is key but also try your best to find a Marriage is not something filmy you are not soul mates. I’d love to hear your stories about either you or your partner not being ready for marriage. My wife and I are best friends ,we are not just married . I’ve been in a And that’s ok for now, but it is imperative that you change it. Hello everyone. It’s really just general marriage comments (nothing about me but only when I’m asked about wedding stuff). So I ended it and sincerely wish him well. Not everyone believes in that institution. You are not destined to be together. If we are not married, then we do not have to go through the process of a divorce, a word which I feel carries a huge negative connotation. I’m 30 and have never been married. . I don't want to get married just to check off a box, saying yea, that's done. I was genuinely happy for her and glad we didn’t “end up” Their father and I are not married, but we have been together since I was 20 (8 years total). If you are a young Trust me, I hear you, but what I was saying was, his father's cheating could be prohibiting the son from branching out. "I feel like I need to get married and get kids before 30 or else it's late for me. Not about men though. Reply reply joklan8180 • Good point! I’d much rather date Crossed 30 and life is still pretty great. Due to not having a set career yet, backing out of getting into relationship on multiple occasions in the past, I ghosted some girls and some girls ghosted me, now feeling am not Hi I've never been married and am above 30, I have some other family members who still arent married yet much older than me but they are my far off from me so its not easy to ask. We have moved across the country and bought a home together, and we are very much Expand your social circle. We’re high school sweethearts, we But—it’s hard being single and seeing people have families, because there is truth to the fact that many of them will deprioritize you. It is upto you I think Cathy was unmarried for so long because she really wasn't the marrying kind. Not thrilled to be single, not thrilled that that whole I (30F) have been hearing about marriage since I turned 21. as i said, the majority of my friends did not live with their partners before marriage. It strained my relationship with View community ranking In the Top 1% of largest communities on Reddit. I personally have Not really. But she was born in the 1950s and it was a time when not being married wasn't a real option. I made this account just to say it. Most of my friends were well into their If you are married, your money and assets, not just your house, are communal and dividing those can take a lot of negotiation. Being unmarried after age 30 might feel like a scarlet letter for some. Due to not having a set career yet, backing out of getting into relationship on multiple occasions in the past, I ghosted some girls and some girls ghosted me, now feeling am not Almost 30. But if a woman hasn't been married or had kids by age 30, it's a red flag that no one deemed her good enough. Did he open and look in every unmarried 30+ women’s heart? There could be 1001 reasons why a woman is not married at 30. For anyone who wants to marry (or have a marriage-like relationship), who you pick is arguably the most important decision of one's life. And that’s scary. Out of all my friends who have just hit 30 now, only 3-4 are married. She just Marriage is not something filmy you are not soul mates. And it was an arranged marriage. A couple can only make I was 33 and he was 30 when we met, and we were married when I was 36. It could be that he feels that marriage is a dying institution because it's That is ridiculous. I get sad sometimes about not being to share my life with someone, and love someone because i have so much to Take this with a grain of salt as I am a stranger on Reddit and have not been married for 30 years. It didn’t. I was engaged in my 20s but never married the guy because I knew in my heart it wasn't right. On the other hand if a person looks at marriage as some kind of exclusive club. And have had to fight to work, to move cities for work and the right to not marry a total stranger. He groomed I have almooooossssttt decided not to get married. You are beating yourself up over this. When I turned 30, I started realizing how much I enjoyed living for myself and doing things my It is definitely possible. I was prepared for an interview like this but we ended up being interviewed together and it didn’t last longer than 30 minutes. For My friend and I made a deal that by 30, if we are not married or in any type of relationship, we would get married. We can just happily go our separate ways. Now my 22 year old brother is getting married. Im in grad school and until I dont start making money, no family will I am 30 and single, but would like to get married one day. So much cheating and resentment and just generally hurting and taking advantage of one another. Here’s what I learned. We are in the UK, so I’m surprised so many of your friends are getting married so young. 4K votes, 396 comments. The older I get, the more I worry society and my family won’t value me. I’m a gamer ,wife not ,she will sit in First time at 19, it was what "we did" after high school. While, based on intentions and situation, it There is this absurd idea going in muslim communities that marriage must be before 30 and anyone reach 30 and not married its like the end of the world, the train has passed, the rocket Two vets who are married to each other and both rated 30% or more can not only both claim the other as a dependent, but they can also both claim any eligible children. I regret my almost decade of bad life choices that has led to social withdrawals. If you are utterly self-centered I want the legal and financial protections of being married, but I also think marriage should have some kind of limited term with optional renewal, and an agreed upon process for not renewing. And the anxiety that we are “failing” is real, but it’s completely false. Log In / Sign Up; Advertise on Reddit; Shop Collectible Avatars; My parents married in less than All my friends are engaged or married and I’m not even close to being in a r/lonely A chip A close button. 8 years ago, started a relationship with someone who has Reddit is not a substitute for a real lawyer. In fact, I can clearly see how a marriage will shackle me to another human 41, male, never married. I've been on Hold that vision in your mind. " "If he isn't ready for marriage when I ask him about Couples who cohabit because it is convenient build the relationship on a foundation of "convenience. When i turned 30 and lost everything, i started new and everything got better in life, I’m so happy this is not my marriage . Out of the unmarried ones, half are still single and there’s I'm 36, I've been with my partner for 10 years and we have a child together. As always, please remember to read the rules and I'm 24 and had a person I was supposed to move in with next year cheat on me half a year ago. The guy I I have a very small group of friends and it got smaller not because they are married and started to have children, it's because of their personalities. I do regret not having the wisdom and self esteem to realize I was worthy of a man who had the True, it's work, but it's work that make you a better person. I am 32, male and have decided not to get married. That’s not to say we haven’t had our challenges over the years, but overall, I feel my life with my husband is wonderful. Maybe you end up not marrying. It really feels like a failure in life but I have When I say I'm not "looking for marriage" I'm not writing off commited long-term relationships. Research and studies say that single unmarried women without children are happier than married women with I met someone 6 months later and got married again at 30. I got married at 23 and felt like a freak because that’s very young by modern standards. It's a low level investment for her since her husband isn't jealous and he doesn't want to hang out with her. Lifelong companionship and intimate partner who'll know you better than anyone in the Get app Get the Reddit app Log In Log in to Reddit. You seem to be living in a fairy tale world, where you think you will find “the one” and she will be the answer to all of your What do you guys think it's like getting married after 30 should I open up and stop limiting my self or will I be okay to focus on my career now so that I can be in a better position in my early We both got married before 30 to other people. If marriage is approached as no big whoop, no big deal , good luck it being a special enduring relationship. I know she is loyal to me on an emotional level and And here we are, almost 12 years later, married 5 and i could not be happier meeting him in my 30's. Then starts the 41, male, never married. This was when I was 18 and he was 21. I just want to propose a So yea, the only real disadvantage is that if the IVF works out, I'll be 60 when my kid graduates from HS, if they have kids at 30 I'll be 72, so I may not have but a few years with grandkids 42F never married, LTR from 18, he died when I was 30, we owned a house, were committed and children were not off the list at 30. I started in my 20s but didnt get any luck getting married until 35. I Twice divorced and no, I don't wear the ring. I’m 24 now almost 25 and. All are welcome, please read and abide by I'm 31, not married and childfree with an amazing boyfriend. I would like to know if there is anyone there ARE plenty of people who choose not to live together before marriage. After a few months of marriage (we dated for years) He was very abusive and I still have knife mark scars. The main reason is that there's just nothing in it for me other than to keep someone from leaving me. I was genuinely happy for her and glad we didn’t “end up” Beyond 30 I feel you are not going to be surroundrd by single friends, meeting interesting singles all over the place, like you are at 20-25 in college, or working at a part time job. Married before 36 and had or going to have kids. I am a bot, and this action was performed I turned 30 on January 8th and I've felt like crap ever since. Even now I dont see what new exciting things a marriage can offer to me. Most Either theyre not intrested in marriage, or theyre looking for a 6ft prince charming, or theyre doing something nefarious. I want some these things for my own I have almooooossssttt decided not to get married. Im not sure if that helps or not, but my Welcome to AskWomenOver30, an inclusive Reddit community where people can ask question to and discuss topics with women over the age of 30. Kids- not so much. Its also Being 30 is a blessing it’s not the end of the world dear brother you have prayed and fasted All those years to try and reach jannah al firdous. You are two None of the married couples around me have made me want what they have. My friend group are all closing in on 35 and finally weddings are Cool idea :D Single 30 years oldIt is great a post, tbh: being single while 30 now isnot that bad, I am still learning, before turning 30 I was afraid and I have to marry although I didnot find el I'm not sure that you can know, just as you can't predict from the outset whether getting married and having children will be the right outcome for you - there are definitely people who regret My cousin got married at 45. I own my home, I own my car, and I feel like as far as Well, they’ve never said anything negative about my fiancé. But i know for sure that it will hurt my parents when I break this news to them. I took a break and made sure I had fully moved on before getting back into the I’m 45, divorced, single, no kids. But I don't believe not being married is a deal breaker. I'm not the type who wants to rush into marriage or I wanted to get married when I was 25 (when I got my first job) so I can build a career and a life with someone together. Im in grad school and until I dont start making money, no family will My experience, being married twice, once divorced. The one time I never would’ve married someone who could even think of that. You are not unique and special and wonderful, and your love will not conquer all. My wife was literally my last attempt and I was gonna give up after that. To maintain your account in good standing, refrain from abusing the report button. At 27, I I’ve been married over 30 years and consider my myself very happy. Idk. You fully imply you’re married and it suggests it’s a long-standing thing. And if you’re not sure if someone you’re dating could be that person, then dump them as quickly as possible. There is nothing wrong with a It somehow bothers some not so close friends of mine and sometimes my family. I got my "Real ID' a few years ago and was asked for surprising paperwork. If you're over 30 with zero direction or ambition, it is not other people's responsibility to validate Dated as someone who's over 35/36 and found someone eventually (after the 30-40 age for pregnancy), but don't want kids. But I am a married woman who watched my parents go through a divorce at your guys' age. r/AskMenOver30 A chip A close button. A divorced woman might think differently but someone in the same boat as you isn’t going to judge. My reasoning initially though was I'm not married even though I'm constantly in relationships for the past few years, I won't propose just to tick a box (current GF just 6M but going good). Obviously the more you have, the longer it takes. Not yet 30 but close to it. Plans fell through and life took a different turn. I didn’t I totally second this! When I was in my early 20s I wanted to be married and have a child at the age of 27. Monogamy is not a concept I can I liked the idea of marriage more than the idea of a wedding. We both aren't really keen to get married but we'll see if we change our minds. Long-term relationships (8 yrs, 10 yrs) but have not married, never wanted to and never will for all I can say at the moment. I (23F) got married young and I severely regret it. I didn't get married to add stability or change anything about relationship. When I was single and 30 and seeing I was married to my 1st wife for 32 years and then got divorced. Be decisive. Its a lot more I’m a heterosexual woman and I love the idea of marriage, so do a lot of my friends though I know a few gay/bi/lesbian people and some of them want to get married too because gay marriage ALL FALSE REPORTS WILL BE REPORTED TO REDDIT. Please Either theyre not intrested in marriage, or theyre looking for a 6ft prince charming, or theyre doing something nefarious. Roughly half of never-married 3)your past doesnt define you, but it can teach you a lot, once you found yourself with gratitude and an open-mind, you can try again, being scared or burned out is okay, but trust me thats I don’t regret not being married in itself because there are lots of mediocre to bad marriages. She did not have a chance to compare the coward she married to the millions of men are out there. Expand user menu Open For young adults who have never been married, not being financially stable and not being ready to settle down loom large as reasons why they are not married. I got married because the stability had already I got married at 28 and when I was about 30 I got a warehouse job and I got myself a silver ring to wear in place of my wedding ring so the real one wouldn’t get damaged. If you are not Hey everyone, So basically i do not want to get married after outweighing pros and cons of it. Literally the civil institution of marriage itself I'm just apathetic to. I think this mindset is what drove me to cling to bad men and bad relationships, It’s not true. This is the great fate for Christians who chose not to marry, but not everyone has the We both got married before 30 to other people. The truth is you’re not even married yet, which you’ll come to learn is far different than being “happily 527 votes, 442 comments. I did not choose the no kids part, I’m infertile, and adoption by myself was not an economic reality. I'm 39 now and we stopped birth control a few months ago just to see what happens. Maybe it has something to do with no longer coming home from incredibly stressful business trips to get That is ridiculous. I nearly took an oath to myself not to get married before 35 but alhemdullilah Allah inspired me and now I've started looking. But I will be honest, I am worried about old For myself, I'm turning 30 next month and honestly, my life is good, hamdulillah. I think understanding I’m 33 and my two best friends and I are not married nor in a relationship. Get app Get the Reddit app Log In Log in to Reddit. Get app I was not about to sell my home and relocate to be with a man who can not trust me or believe in us as a couple. I do not believe in marriage and my partner says that he's not really bothered either way. My parents Take this with a grain of salt as I am a stranger on Reddit and have not been married for 30 years. I just had The married woman is already coupled up and is just looking for social variety. I am married and I could not agree more. Ridiculous The corona virus has given me some time to think about my life choices a bit. The ones I met that I would have married were already married. While, based on intentions and situation, it . It depends more on the couple and their maturity. Not that you shouldn't keep the old Get the Reddit app Scan this QR code to download the app now. I had a happy ending, for Yeah like we’re not on Reddit saying “hey I’m 33F ridiculously happy in my marriage look at me”, Happily married, after being with the wrong man from college to early 30's. When it came to marriage, I could Not saying that happiness isn't important, but marriage is a lot more than happiness, and even happiness has a process behind it for why we have it or why we don't. I for one do not. It's trash out here in these single streets. The constant rejection hurts and takes a toll over time. I don’t think I want kids. My best friend is 30, also not married and Literally just read an article that the average age for women to get married now is 30! If you definitely want kids, or you want to marry someone who hasn’t yet been married or doesn’t V hard to say based on the above but it does seem extreme - probably already considered this but is there any way you could be giving out the wrong 'vibes' and I mean that I’m not quite even 30 yet and half the marriages I know of have already ended in divorce or have an ugly side that isn’t shown to the public. All are welcome, please read and abide by If not for covid, we would have even been married I guess. I For the people I know (upper middle class, we all grew up in the Bay Area, California) it’s rare to be married before 30. Now I’m engaged to be married in Almost 30. This is mostly because I'm single, while all 3 of my best friends are married. We even wrote a kind of contract and signed Crossed 30 and life is still pretty great. Some jerkoffs might think I’m unusual for being 30 and having never been married, but I don’t give a shit about their opinions. So for example, I have money, I have alone time, and I have freedom. Like my marriage certificate from 1984, my divorce decree Up until I turned 30- I thought I would get married and I thought I wanted it. I've feel like most of the married couples I know, did it "because it was what you did", not "because we absolutely loved each other". Due to not having a set career yet, backing out of getting into relationship on multiple occasions in the past, I ghosted some girls and some girls ghosted me, now feeling am not Not to sound parental :-) But, I will share my perspective (I am in late 40s). They had a beautiful family and so do I. Open menu Open navigation Go to Reddit Home. Then I didn’t yet die. TONS of people are single or at least not engaged/married at 27, so if you literally have no single friends left, find some. Had my first child at 34, second at 39. Most of them are still single and not considering settling down! I say Even I the US, there are reasons to not get married. I divorced him at 22. (Got married too young and just ran out of steam Please do not use this flair if you are not a man who is married to a woman and showing your wedding band/ring in your submission. I want to get married before that. And as someone Never been married and grateful my married friends have a lot of faith in me being around their husbands, but I guess in a sense, it also speaks a lot of volume about their marriages as well Yes. The way she was rejecting all the rishtas in her youth, everyone thought that she will never get married but she did. Recently two married friends asked me why I’m not thinking about it or Not quite what you're looking for, but I was married and choose to never marry again. I should never have been in that relationship in the first place. Welcome to AskWomenOver30, an inclusive Reddit community where people can ask question to and discuss topics with women over the age of 30. Just wait until you’re like 30 or This reddit is for people who are mature and/or over 30 and tired of all the crap posts by kids in reddit. You don't have to be nice in here, just respectful with your opinions. I’m still not 100% sure. I really think that you DO love your wife and the feelings for the ex are purely lust. It's a huge Almost 30 but as a new grad with a useless degree in arts with no career qualifications. It wasn't just something that comes up once that will never seen again, it's something people do into the elderly years. Reply reply not quite marriage, but any responsibility can discourage risk taking, discourage moving or travel, etc On the whole, though, the right partner benefits far outweigh the costs. But there’s real value in savoring that time. It is extremely wonderful and far from sin. it's none of my business what you When I was getting married and having kids (in my 30's) all my friends were single and not even considering settling down. I’ve been married to my darling hubby for 37 years, he wasn’t my first I've made this particular promise with a girl from high school: if we are not married by the age of 30, we are going to have to work something out. Honestly I don’t understand this. I could totally go for a life Technically not allowed to get married on account of it not being legal in the country until 2015 but It went terribly. He’s bad with I would say getting married and not having kids is definitely worth it if children aren't in the cards for you. Just fine. I would like to know if there is anyone I’m 30’s and never married.
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